Matthew 19:12…….Ready

Matthew 19:12…….Ready

19:12 For some are eunuchs because they were born that way; (Can also be result of being born intersexed, having a mixture of both male and female characteristics where the biology is ambiguous) others were made that way by men; (Can also be a result of being wounded in battle, sports, accident, a botched surgery. Or have been emotionally damaged in previous relationships. Jesus is not sanctioning or approving this practice, but rather is only talking about the reality of what’s currently existing in the world. The Lord isn’t desiring that for anyone!) and others have renounced marriage because of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.” (For Complete Expository See Book)

Extended Sermons

“Teaches those who are single are able to give themselves more fully to the work of God without distractions.” ⇒ By setting aside the responsibilities of marriage your more able to have “single-minded  devotion” to the things of church, ministry, or the community without distractions.  Being single frees us from all the cares that come with marriage, making us more disposed to the duties of God……(To be Continued)

“Teaches singleness isn’t about personal freedom in never being tied down or having to check in, but about serving God.” → Oftentimes people choose singleness for selfish reasons in never being tied down or economic reasons. They don’t want to take on the financial responsibility and cost in supporting a family. Or they want to avoid the messy work of taking care of someone else’s kids, sharing in their problems, the family drama, the extra baggage, etc. Or they don’t want to give up playing videos games or watching movies all day long. Or they like keeping their options open, looking for a perfect mate. Someone who meets all their requirements. They have to be smart, beautiful, and talented. And as a result they either turn to pornography or commit fornication because they don’t want the attachments. (This is not saying we should just rush into marriage. Obviously we should be careful about who we marry. But rather we should not avoid marriage simply because we want to avoid commitment)

“Teaches despite the stigma & disapproval that comes from being single, it’s worth it for the sake of serving the things of God.” → Choosing to remain single can often lead to feelings of shame or being looked down upon by society, particularly from family and friends who may not understand the decision. This societal response can create temporary discomforts or social pressures that are difficult to endure. However, the true value of singleness does not lie in seeking public approval. Instead, it is found in faithfully pursuing the unique calling that God has placed upon each individual’s life. Trusting in this commitment, even when it differs from the majority, brings purpose and meaning before the Lord. The eternal significance and spiritual investment of dedicating one’s life in this way far outweigh the passing opinions of others. Remaining steadfast in this calling affirms that its worth is not measured by the acceptance of others, but by a genuine devotion to God’s purpose for one’s life. Enduring the misunderstandings or negative perceptions of others is part of walking faithfully in one’s calling; instead of focusing on cultural expectations or seeking approval from society, the true reward lies in wholehearted devotion to God, finding contentment and purpose in living out His will, regardless of relationship status, while remembering that one’s value and identity are determined by God and not by others’ opinions.

“Even today, churches should not make those who are single feel odd or out of place because they want to live a life fully devoted to God. Nor should singles be viewed as flawed or someone who needs fixing. Instead they should be supported and valued as a great asset for their service and devotion to the Lord” ⇒ What happens in many churches as soon as they see a visitor come through the door, perhaps a family, a husband and wife with several children, people gather around and just fawn over them. Eager to welcome them, invite them to events, and offer support, often making them feel instantly accepted and valued within the community. But when a single man or woman enters, the feeling is not the same. The greeting may be polite but less enthusiastic, and the sense of belonging is not always as evident. Sometimes singles are overlooked or receive only casual acknowledgment, as if their status is less celebrated or even questioned. In some cases, churches may unintentionally prioritize families, creating an environment where singles feel out of place or less important. This distinction is not always intentional, but it reveals a preference that can leave singles feeling isolated or undervalued. Such attitudes are found not only social interactions, but also leadership opportunities and involvement within the church as well. For instance, some churches will put up their own preferences or requirements for who they want in a preacher. Their list will include things like; must have seminary degree, must preach and teach the truth, must be a people person, etc. But the one main thing at the top of their list is “Must be married with children.” If these churches were looking for a preacher 2000 years ago. You know who would be disqualified ? Jesus would be disqualified. Paul would be disqualified. We find the same thing in a world that builds up marriage as though it’s a be-all, end-all. That if you’re not married and have children there’s something wrong with you. Too often I have seen those who are married look down upon those who are single, as if they haven’t yet arrived in life. Perhaps you have seen it. A single man or single woman is introduced to a married person. When it comes out that this individual isn’t married, the initial reaction is pity, as if they were a second class citizen. Sometimes they’re asked, “Why aren’t you married?” as if to say, “What’s wrong with you? What’s your problem”?

Additional Notes & Applications 

Encourages whatever disabilities or deformities you suffer, doesn’t mean that God doesn’t have a plan or purpose for your life.

Calls for compassion and understanding toward those whose life situations differ from the majority being no fault of their own.

Calls for recognizing that our station in life is a gift from God and should use the season wisely.

Calls for trusting that the Lord will provide what’s best for you.

Note: Some grossly twist this verse around to justify homosexuality, that Jesus is saying some are born gay with same-sex attractions and should accept it.  

BENEFITS IN REMAINING SINGLE

• Singles are spared the troubles of marriage.

• Singles can devote themselves more fully to the work of God.

• Singles are less stressed.

• Singles can make better use of their time.

• Singles are able to rely more fully on God.

• Singles are better able to find peace and contentment in God

• Singles are more connected with church family